One thing she talks about is the fear parents have of trying to make our kids look "good". But if they grow up in a Christian home they already know how to act "good". They know how to fake it, parrot answers, exude false humility, shallow apologies, etc.

We had a preteen/teen parent meeting at church last week, and one thing that really convicted me was when our friend shared that we should be wary when our kids are always good. No one is always good. All sin and fall short (Romans 3:23)No one is good not even one Romans 3:10-12). You're not good all the time, I'm not good all the time. why do we think it's okay when our kid is "good" all the time?

If we are raising our kids to be followers of Jesus, we much teach them to identify sin, feel the way God feels about it, and teach them how to repent. We must teach them to confess their sins to one another (James 5:16). We cripple our children, our families, and the church, when we pretend like everything and everyone is fine. Don't allow shallowness, and deceit predominate your child's character.

Our friend at church went on to share that after the kid continually hears that they are so "good" all the time, they are afraid to confess what is really in their hearts. The thought they had, what they looked at, or did, etc. They start to think that "good" kids don't do that. They start living in the dark, never confessing, never repenting, and never finding true freedom in Christ. Eventually they walk away from God burdened with guilt and shame.

If we are to teach our kids to confess their sins, they need to see us confessing our sins. Surely we sin against them, maybe even once a day! Confess it to your children, and ask forgiveness. If they see you sin against your husband, let them see you confess your wrong, ask for forgiveness, and change. During family prayer develop the habit of confession, not always praise and thanksgiving.